Tom let me know that Chris Miles has added a very useful feature to the free BBLight opensource application. Version 1.95 now adds the ability to make your phone vibrate at the same time it rings. This has been a feature you had to pay for in the past and now you can get it free. Let me know if this works for you in the comments. Nice work Chris!!!
I definitely recommend checking it out and downloading version1.95 at this link OTA